If you have had a pet, it is likely that you know how strong the bond between human and animal can be, and how painful the death of a pet can be. Some people have even said that they feel a greater loss when they lose a pet to losing a human loved one. Either way, in the 21st century, the loss of a pet is often seen as akin to the loss of a family member.
With grieve tends to come a desire for ritual and remembering. Whilst these paths are generally societally proscribed when it comes to human loss, when it comes to pets there is more freedom to choose what seems right to you. This is reflected in the growing pet death care sector.
Options when your pet dies include: freeze drying your pet, pet cemeteries, taxidermy, cremation, burial in the garden, skull on mantlepiece, leaving them in the wood biostyle, funeral/wakes and much more. You can choose to turn your beloved’s remains into jewellery, tattoos or artworks. For the death itself, if a pet is being put to sleep, home euthanasia can be more personal but more expensive. And the price of the after death options don’t come cheap either.
“For some grieving pet owners, the combined costs can climb into the thousands—though for most, still below the $7,000 to $10,000 median human funeral cost. But while the options were once limited to burial in a backyard or abandonment at the vet’s for disposal, pet owners now can access a spectrum of services that rivals—and sometimes exceeds—those available to humans.”
– Atlas Obscura
To help you through the grief there are apparently how social workers and counsellors who specialise in the mourning of pets. There are classes for vets to attend to help their human clients with grief and pet psychics who can communicate on behalf of your pet to provide you with reassurance.
As I explore a couple of key options for pet death care in upcoming posts, we’ll see that the idea that pets can be legitimate objects of grief is becoming much more wide spread. That’s not to say that it’s uncontested, but it does reflect a changing status of pets as more than objects.
There will be a short break in blog posts but when I come back, I’ll have a look at pet cemeteries, pet obituaries and a couple of other options and what they say about the status of pets and the meaning we imbue our animals with. And note I say pet. Animals are not all deemed worthy of grief and being mourned for and I aim to unpick that idea a little further.