The darkness has arrived. It is engulfing us. And it is crushing some of us. Winter can be a difficult time for some of us, for our mental health and our physical health. Winter weather can restrict and isolate us.
Before I get onto this month’s topic, I want to say a bit more about how I am currently thinking about winter this year. In the past I have battled against it, I have set myself up to fight the winter. This has involved SAD lamps, meal plans, cooking and freezing in bulk and late winter holidays to sunnier places. But I was constantly on the defensive and to be honest, my success was limited. I would still get to the end of winter having faced worse depression and increased physical pain.
Then last winter came and it was my first winter not working and so I wasn’t going out and seeing people and wasn’t feeling useful and so on. All great things for your mental health. In addition to that, most people I knew were working full time and I can’t go out in the rain on my own because I can’t put on my own wheelchair waterproof. On the whole, these things are still the case. I do now know people who don’t work which is good but I still can’t go out in the rain without help and the cold is bad for pain and the dark is bad for mental health.
Then, last Christmas, an amazing friend of mine gave me the wild unknown animal spirit deck. And shortly after, I started my blog series, looking at each animal more closely and getting to know them. The first card was the bear. And it was one of a few things that really transformed my approach to winter.
Instead of battling, the bear teaches us to go with the seasons, to let the rhythms flow with us not against us. We can embrace the urge to hibernate, as long as we balance it with more active times in the spring and summer. I’ve already repeated a lot of the bear post in many other posts so I’m not going to talk much more about it, but I do recommend looking at it.
Along with the bear, I was also finding I was reading about the necessity of the darkness. The need to have space and time to go within ourselves and to nurture ideas and seeds which aren’t ready to be externalised and made vulnerable.
Some of what I was reading was talking about changing the way we think of darkness. It is not the absence of light, but something immensely valuable in itself. Without the dark, we cannot see the moon, we cannot see the stars and we do not appreciate the light. This is a time of rest, of restoration, of recuperation. A necessary part of the year.
But of course, the winter can feel long and this is why we have festivals and celebrations. December has long been considered a holy month, holding as it does the winter solstice and later the Christian Christmas as well as Hanukkah, and various other feast days.
- Which religious festivals can be found in December?
- The dark months are coming
- The scent of winter
- Winter traditions
- If like me, you’re stuck inside, I hope my connecting with nature posts give you some inspiration:
- You might also find my helpful stuff posts useful if you’ve got pain issues which are worse in the cold and wet: