Since coming to the end of my psychology sessions I’ve been trying to maintain some space each week for reflection. It’s not, of course, as good as therapy but I think it’s good for me.
So, it’s in my diary. Friday morning at 9.30. I either head to a cafe or into my spare bedroom with a drink and a candle.
I spend a bit of time reflecting on the week, what did I get up to, how am I doing emotionally etc. This is helpful because I have a tendency to consciously forget things have happened whilst I’m still unconsciously dealing with them. For example this week has been big – got my door opener sorted, had my last day of work, started withdrawing from some of my meds etc. But without sitting down and thinking about it, I wouldn’t have given myself credit for dealing with all of that and would instead be beating myself for all the things I didn’t do this week.
To help with my reflection, I have some question cards. The questions are from Make A Mess: Everyday Creativity. Generally, when I need to think most, I’m likely to go blank so the cards help to focus me! For a bigger check in, try this worksheet from Carrie mallon.
I have a little box which contains the cards as well as some bits and pieces including pictures of important things, an amethyst crystal and a little knitted snail from a very close friend which reminds me to take things at my pace.
I also have my tarot cards which I use to look at the week just gone and the week ahead. Again, this helps give some structure to my thinking time.
And I’ve started to do a five things check, where I check I’ve got some balance into my week: Have I done something creative, intellectual, restful, outside and something around checking I’m with myself?
Do you have any regular check ins or routines which help keep your mental health ticking over?